WHEN A RELATIONSHIP BECOMES.
My work as a therapist often brings in people for counseling who presents with symptoms of anxiety and depression. There is often much more to the story, and it is not uncommon for relationship problems to be involved.
What I have observed is that some of these relationships go to a different level of unhealthy. It can become an addiction for some.
Just as one may drink, drug, or gamble when one knows it is harmful to them and others, they continue. They cannot control their behaviors in these cases, and until they "hit bottom", and make the choice to work on behavior changes to stop, the damage continues over and over.
Relationship problems can go to this level. The emotional pain that one experiences often puts the "addict" into situations where they have problems letting go. Their thoughts and actions where the other partner is concerned can become obsessive. Some even stalk the other through the phone, social media, or even physically.
No matter how painful the relationship is to the "addict", they go back for more. Some even experience physical abuse. There is often an excuse, or a way to bargain so that they can try "just one more time", expecting a different outcome.
Just as the alcoholic or drug addict risks their sobriety when they take the next drink, the next phone call or meeting may open the relationship up again, after one has gotten the courage to attempt to walk away.
It is hard for some to realize that some relationship are so unhealthy that staying in them will continue to keep them sick. Just as the physical health improves when the drunk puts the bottle down for good, emotional health is there for those who can take the steps to walk away from a relationship that has become addictive.
Dr. Nona Owens
580 Springridge Rd.
Clinton, Mississippi, 39056