BOUNDARIES: EVERYONE NEEDS THEM
A Therapist Thoughts
Have you ever looked as someone and thought "Door Mat"? We have probably all encountered that person who becomes a door mat to others. They give up their own identity and feelings for others.
Unfortunately, there are people who are afraid that their boundaries will upset others. They may fear being alone, or that someone they love will leave them. They are willing to accept a style of life that is not healthy for them to keep this from happening.
Others may be unaware of the need to set boundaries. They just go about life, oblivious to how others take advantage of them. People who grew up in a home where parents were like that often just accept that it is just the way it is. Others, due to religious cultures are taught to be submissive to others.
Regardless of the reason, when one lives with poor boundaries, their own needs are often not being met. This is an unhealthy way to live life. Those seeking therapy are often anxious or depressed, and have lost their own identity.
Just as a piece of land has boundaries, so should a person. Think of it as a piece of land having a fence around it. There is a gate there to allow entry, or to keep someone or something out. This may be for safety or privacy. That is what setting our own boundaries does for us.
Dr. Nona Owens
580 Springridge Rd., Suite 4-A
Clinton, Ms. 39056