IS THIS THE PROBLEM WITH YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Any time a person enters into a relationship with other their personality traits have a lot to do with how the relationship will play out. One problem for many is the issue of "right fighting".
Have you heard that term before. If not, it might be something that might be helpful to you.
Right fighting happens when there is the need to always be right. There is no give and take in a discussion, or in others situations as well. It is extremely hard to have a conversation with a "right fighter". It becomes even more of a problem when both partners have the same issue. No one listens to the other, except when they are trying to get the next word in, or to argue the point. Nothing is accomplished, and anger often escalates.
Before a relationship can improve it is necessary for the "right fighter" to turn loose of some of that control. They must learn to listen to the message the other is trying to convey. From there, they need to learn to look at the options available, as well as the feelings the partner is trying to convey.
Learning good communication skills are often the first part of work a marriage counselor does with a couple. Many go into a relationship not knowing how to communicate their own feelings, nor pay attention to the feelings of their partner. Learning to accept that there is no place for "right fighters" in a relationship can improve the bond, and help develop good communication.
Dr. Nona Owens
580 Springridge Rd.
Clinton, Ms. 39056