Dr. Nona Owens - Psychologist
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Anger Management in Relationships

ANGER MANAGEMENT
 
 
Is Your Relationship Making You Angry?
 
 
 
As a therapist in the Jackson, Mississippi area who treats those dealing with anger issues I get, from time to time, those who seek help for anger problems because it is causing problems within their relationship with their significant other.  Seeking therapy can prove to be a positive step in healing a wounded relationship, and often leads to marriage or couples counseling with the two.
 

Tools To Improve A Relationship

TOOLS TO IMPROVE A RELATIONSHIP
 
 
Methods That Work
 
 
 
 
 
 
My work as a psychologist in the Jackson, Mississippi area often involves working with couples who have relationship issues.  Some call for marriage counseling, and others call because they are struggling with the relationship without making the commitment to marriage.  Many times, the issues are the same. 
 
Often, as I start a session, I ask how the time has been since the last visit.

The Blame Game: Coming To Terms With Blame or Blaming

COMING TO TERMS WITH
BLAME OR BLAMING
 
 
 
 
 
 
Blame is something we are all familiar with, whether we are on the receiving end or the one blaming others.  Many relations are strained or end due toblame. Sometimes, it is because one or the other refuses to see that there are two sides to any event.
 
As a child, I was challenged by my father to find something that had one side.  I was promised a dollar if I found that one-sided something.  And, since that was in an era when a dollar went a long way for a child, I kept looking for that elusive item/event to earn that dollar.

Shame Based Living

SHAME BASED LIVING
The Dangers of Growing Up With Shame
 
 
 
Shame on you!  How many of your reading this have heard this message played over and over while growing up?  In my practice as a psychologist in the Jackson, Mississippi area, I often conduct therapy with those who grew up in a home where they were made to feel ashamed of their behavior.  Or, even worse, to feel that they could do nothing right.  Parents who provide a shame based upbringing for their children don't realize the harm they are doing to their child on into adulthood as they try to have a normal relationship with others, or even when they work to develop a stable career.

FIVE TYPES OF ABUSE

                         FIVE TYPES OF ABUSE
 
 
 
There are many forms of abuse in unhealthy relationships. As a psychologist and couples therapist in the Jackson, Mississippi area, I deal with the damage these forms of abuse do to people. Long after the abuse, the pain goes on through the damage to the human psyche. Here are the five types of abuse I often deal with in my office.

The Death Of A Marriage

        THE DEATH OF A MARRIAGE
      Thoughts From A Psychologist
 
 
 
 
No relationship is ever perfect. Some problems come and go, others crop up, and some just lay there until the marriage is breathing its last breath. As a psychologist in the Jackson, Ms.Metro area who offers marriage counseling in my practice, I have an opportunity to see common problems in marriages that slowly eat away at the relationship. There are three major problems I see that, when worked on by both parties, can help breathe new life into a marriage.

Survival While Living With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder

Survival While Living With Someone Who Has Borderline Personality Disorder
 
 
  
 
 Has someone important to you in your life been diagnosed as having Borderline Personality Disorder, and you feel that you are walking on a tight rope with them?  Are you neglecting your own mental health to care for them?  If so, I encourage you to read this article I wrote which was published on Associated Content.  It is aimed at helping you live in harmony with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.

Enabler: They Come In All Ages And Stages Of Life

ENABLER
 
They Come in All Ages
And Stages of Life
 
An enabler is defined as a person who, through his or her actions allows someone else to achieve something.  In most instances, the term enabler is associated with people who allow a loved one to behave in ways that are destructive.
 
As a psychologist, I've seen enablers who contribute to the negative behaviors of their toddler, all the way to the range of those who enable a spouse to continue to engage in substance or physical abuse.

Do You Have The Right Instruction Manual For Life?

.DO YOU HAVE THE RIGHT INSTRUCTION
MANUAL FOR LIFE?
 
 
 
Perhaps one of the most interesting and challenging people to work with is one who comes in highly motivated to make changes in the way they are living.  Life, for them, is full of conflict and confusion.  They know that what they are doing isn't working for them, but they often do not have the skills to make the changes without help.  Its like trying to construct a multi piece toy without the right instruction manual.

Are You Involved With Someone With Borderline Personality Disorder?

 
ARE YOU INVOLVED WITH SOMEONE WHO
HAS A BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER?
 
 
According to the DSM-IV-TR, the Diagnostic Manual used by Mental Health Professionals, Borderline Personality Disorder is "A pervasive pattern of instability of interpersonal relationships, self-image, and affects (moods), and marked impulsivity beginning by early adulthood.
 
Statistics show that Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) occurs in about 2% of the general population.  By that accounting, we all have exposure to people with this personality disorder.